Lying cheating son of a gun!!!!

I'm going to share with all of you my last relationship because Ive got LOTS of emails asking the same questions I was asking myself last month and like I said, I'm much better at giving advice than taking my own.

Here's the scenario: I met this boy, and yes I will call him a boy because he is NOT a man, at a pool party at my best guy friends house, he came with a mutual friend of my ex's.

1st mistake: Like I stressed before, its never the best idea to date friends

I didn't know him at all and at the time I wasn't fully aware of how he fit into the circle of guys I had previously known from my ex and my roommate Shanti.  He started talking to my friend Audra, well hitting on her actually, I heard him ask Audra for her number and she replied " I have a boyfriend" he then replied with "so"

2nd mistake: He doesn't respect relationships nor does he care about commitment

We continued to drink and moved the party to the apt I share with Shanti, we continued to drink and this boy and I started to have conversations.  As the night died down and everyone was getting sleepy he asked me if I wanted to go back to his place with him. I agreed only because my other friend was going as well, I ended up spending the night but we DID NOT sleep together, I thought I saw some potential in this guy.  The next morning he dropped me back off at home and promised to see me in a few hours so we could go to the LA fair, somehow along the line we didn't exchange numbers and he "didn't get my number" until hours later

3rd mistake: If he actually liked me I would have been on his mind and he would have FOUND my number to confirm or cancel plans, he knows all of our mutual friends and with twitter, bbm and a million other ways it would have taken him one phone call or one text to have my phone number. 

I agreed to meet up with him later at his house to watch a movie, for the 1st few weeks he was on his best behavior, the only thing that struck me as weird was we didn't speak much during the day, he would go on about his day as would I and it would be 8,9,10 at night before Id get a text or return call RED FLAG! he already wasn't making me feel like I was an important part of his daily activities aka his life.  I didn't get too upset about it though I just thought maybe we'll take this all slow.

WRONG - Let me tell you, when you start a relationship with someone you have to set your expectations up front or he wont know what you expect out of him and before you know it he will be walking all over you.


In the weeks to come things just started getting worse and worse, I went to a social event were he was performing, I only went to support him and brought all my friends whom I was so excited to have him meet, he completely ignored me and didn't even let me know when he got inside the venue, I had to actually walk by the table he was sitting at to find out he was there.

If you come out to support your man you and your friends should be his number one priority next to his performance, whatever it may be, basketball, football, singing. I'm not saying he should follow you around like a puppy but he should show he appreciates your support and the fact that your friends are there to show support to someone they don't know shows that they love the girl he's interested in and he should acknowledge that. I mean "whats a star when your most important fan is missing"


Then he started disappearing at night, not answering the phone after he would go out for a "boys night". We would make plans and he would simply not show or not answer the phone, he would call the next day to apologize with stories as of where he was, his phone died about 3 times, one time he fell asleep at a friends hotel room, once he passed out drunk and didn't hear the phone, this boy thought of EVERY excuse, and I believed him.

If a guy is into you, he cant wait for you to come over at night and crawl into bed with him, no matter what, hes looking at his phone, hes texting you throughout the night and he is at least if he doesn't want you with him that night saying good night, see my biggest thing was, isn't it much easier to pick up the phone, say your tired and go about whatever you're doing? Nope they would rather have you going insane wondering where they are, and most of the time I was most worried about his safety


I was turning into the girl I didn't want to be I was sitting at home alone to "show him I was "well behaved and wifey material"

WHAT is wifey material, because looking around this city, wifey is the dumb broad sitting at home holding everything down while her man is out fucking all the ratchet hoes he can. Ladies DO as you please if you have your shit together and you want to be out every night GO OUT as long as youre paying your bills and aren't making a complete ass of yourself HAVE fun, do not sit around to "show him" if he likes you he will like you for you, you may have to compromise but NEVER put your life on hold for a man or anyone for that matter, trust me life is WAY to short.


I was stalking his twitter, his friends twitter and being the girl I NEVER was. I don't stalk, they stalk with me. The sad thing was that behind closed doors he constantly assured me I was his girl and that "he loved me" and " no matter what he wasn't going anywhere" FUCK that he might not be going anywhere but I sure as hell was.

I think what finally made things click was one day I had come to his house after we had 2 days apart because he again wasn't answering the phone, I had planned out a night for us, see he's from Chicago and there is a special day there called, "Sweetest day" it's a Valentines day for men. I made cupcakes, got him a build a bear, got waxed had my hair done and did my makeup he assured me he would call me after the club and I would meet him at his house, I never got a call, in fact, I didn't get a call for 2days when he finally did call I went running like a stupid asshole, a few " I'm so sorry babies" and " I miss yous" and I was off and running to his side.

Like I told you, I'm a VERY observant person, when I went into his room that night I immediately went into the bathroom and noticed my toothbrush was put away, my girly shampoos and razors where under the sink along with my flat iron, now this boy doesn't clean and it finally clicked, he had put away all of my belongings because he had someone else over, it didn't hurt so much that he had another girl over it hurt more that he cared whether or not the girl saw my belongings, if she was random who gives a shit if you "have a girlfriend" that was the little piece of pure evidence that was right in front of my eyes to make my heart change.

I still continued to see him, and speak every once in a while but it just wasn't the same. I had begun to let go, after I went on a trip to Miami with some friends I really started to be ok with it.  When I got back a close friend of mine informed me that he had been sleeping with a mutual friend of hers, that broke my heart, even though I was "over it" it sucked that he had actually moved on first, not that they were a couple but that he was ok with sleeping with someone I would know about.

Even after that piece of information I still continued to pick up his calls and see him out. We only slept together once after I heard about the "new girl" and I think I just needed that as closure, I finally ended it when his punk ass slipped up and invited both me and the other girl over at the same night, I'm not really sure how this dumb ass played it all out but long story short, as I was pulling up to his apt, he had invited me lets clear that up I wasn't stalking, and as I was getting out of the car she was walking up to the gate as well, a part of me wanted to confront him and yell and scream and be dramatic, but I decided to handle myself like a lady and act like it didn't bother me, I got into the car and drove away I then sent him a text so that he knew I had seen her and really just let go of him. He of course tried to lie saying she showed up on her own blah blah blah. Yea whatever save it for the bird. LIAR LIAR LIAR

 He really didn't leave my heart until recently when I met an amazing person who likes me for who I am, he picks up my calls and keeps his promises, he says what he means and means what he says and it made me realize I'm worth so much more.

This lying ass loser will probably end up all alone, I think he's so unhappy with himself he feels the way to boost his ego is sleep with all these girls and have them want him when the truth of the matter is they will fall for a lie, he is a lie everything he does and says is a lie and I fell for it, I have a great quote for him if he reads this

"There is no stopping true love, unless you fall in love with a lie that's found out"

So common ladies blast that Deuces remix and CHUCK THEM UP with me

Move on to something better!