We all know them and we all want to love them. They're the girls in the club that you know where they got their Louboutins and their huge Gucci/Chanel bag, it wasn't from their sugar daddy, it wasn't from their boyfriend it was from their rich mommy and daddy.
Let me get something straight here right now, like I said I grew up in a small town outside of Pittsburgh my father had the best job you could possibly have in our town he worked really hard and made very good money, enough so that my mom never had to work and my brother and I never had to want for anything, but making "great money" in Pittsburgh and "making great money in LA" are 2 totally different ball games. I never had anything crazy while growing up, we were members at our country club, both of my parent drove nice cars, our home was beautiful and my brother and I were always allowed to get what was trendy. (remember when pagers were cool, random thought) our family vacations where to the beach and we visited Europe twice all together. My first car was a Cadillac Caterer, it was hunter green and two door with tan leather interior in my Italian family a Cadillac is the only way to go with a car my dad is obsessed with them, now that he's retired he actually collects them, but in long story short I grew up very humbled I had a lot of friends who where poor and were raised in trailers or on welfare, I was always taught not to choose my friends on what they have or what they can give you but what they have inside them and what you can give them.
In LA everyone wants to be "rich" and looked at in a certain way and grouped in a certain category, I fell into this with an old roommate of mine, Kelly. We were obsessed with making everyone believe we came from these ridiculously rich families and that we had all the money in the world, in reality we both came from amazing, loving, giving families that just didn't see the need for us to spend $1,000.00 on one purse or a pair of shoes, nor the reason for the need to spend almost $5,000.00 on rent but in my and Kelly's mind we needed to impress everyone else. We feel into a very dark time and were obsessed with competition, we lost ourselves and our souls in the process. We were lying about taking trips, struggling to make our rent taking adderal to get ourselves out of bed we were at each others throats all the time. We would back stab each other yet be so obsessed with one another and the image that we had created that we were inseparable, now that I look back I cant believe the person I was, I was so unhappy but had everything I thought I wanted, a beautiful apt in the most admired building in Hollywood, access and invited to everything! and I mean EVERYTHING! we were hanging out with the "cool rich kids" throwing crazy after parties at our apt we were on top but inside felt like a black pit. Kelly and I finally had a falling out and moved out of our apt and stopped living together, since we have both grown into better people and I at least have realized whats important.
Now, these little rich girls out here make me so sad they are so unhappy all the diamonds on their wrists and louie bags hanging from their arms are NOT going to make you happy, they are SO concerned about spending money and having the most expensive things to impress who? These dummies think people will like them more? well anyone who likes you more for what you wear is DEF not someone I want in my life, Ive been very close to a lot of these "rich girls" and let me tell you most of them are INSANE! they steal each others boyfriends, talk shit about one another, and constantly compete, their families usually don't care much about them and most were raised by nannies, they have no concept of compassion and are the most jealous and insecure people I have ever met. At the end of the day no one is going to fall in love with you because you have 80,000.00 dollars worth of louboutins or because your daddy is rich these girls are mean, ruthless and usually don't have much of a personality, no after high school education, they have no real life experiences and bond with others over gossip and shit talking. Don't get me wrong, I have met a few that come from good families and that have been raised right but in most cases they are COMPLETE messes especially when it comes to relationships. Most have been so used to buying and having whatever they want that when a guy doesn't want them or breaks up with them they go insane, I mean we all go crazy when we go through a break-up but these girls are crushed, their world is so small and unmeaningful filled with only shopping, nails and dinner that this consumes them and they really don't have any real friends to fall back on because the girls they "call their friends" are smirking behind their back at their unhappiness.
We all like and want nice things and strive to be able to look and feel good, but don't give the devil your soul for a pair of red bottoms, trust me it's not worth it and you wont be able to keep up the gimmick you'll get tired of pretending you can do the things your rich friends can, and go broke and upset your parents trying, trust me, i've been through it, and if they dont want to be your friend for you, then you don't need them anyways, the only thing you need to keep up to date and in style is your awesome personality, your good heart, warm genuine smile your individuality and your morals, something no one can buy nor take away from you.
Wednesday, January 12, 2011
Tuesday, January 11, 2011
I confess...
I confess
- I'm scared to death of midgets
- I eat only so I don't die, I never crave food but LOVE going to dinner.
- I despise socks
- I'm obsessed with coffee and red bull
- I smoke Marlboro lights
- I love french fries
- I eat the filet- o- fish at McDonald's
- Its WAY to easy for me to separate my emotions from sex
- I love Top Ramen
- I think people who don't love animals are evil
- I prefer to buy all my clothes at a vintage store rather than on Rodeo
- I hate people who don't have a personality
- I think children with down syndrome are the cutest things in the whole world
- I agree with abortion
- I was raised strict Catholic but I'm now spiritual, I believe in Karma and do onto others as u would want done to u
- Even as a young girl I never fantasized about my wedding, I always said I wanted to get married in Vegas by Elvis(very fitting to my personality if you know me)
- I grew up in a small town outside Pittsburgh. My childhood was like leave it to Beaver. Sidewalks, pine trees and a stay at home mom
- I have an older brother and I'm also an aunt.
- Everyone in my families first name starts with a "J"
- My favorite color is red.
- I pee in the shower
- I'm only attracted to white boys if they are fully tattooed
- I don't do drugs
- Before my hair was blonde I had never ever colored it in my life
- I have 8 tattoos
- I have a Biology Degree
- My favorite city to visit is Miami
- I have an unhealthy obsession with Wiz Khalifa and Anthony Keidis
- I hate the taste of Vodka, my favorite drink is Crown Royal and Ginger- Ale or Patron sprite and grenadine
- Im not a private person
These are my confessions. Love me or hate me I'm Dunnie
- I'm scared to death of midgets
- I eat only so I don't die, I never crave food but LOVE going to dinner.
- I despise socks
- I'm obsessed with coffee and red bull
- I smoke Marlboro lights
- I love french fries
- I eat the filet- o- fish at McDonald's
- Its WAY to easy for me to separate my emotions from sex
- I love Top Ramen
- I think people who don't love animals are evil
- I prefer to buy all my clothes at a vintage store rather than on Rodeo
- I hate people who don't have a personality
- I think children with down syndrome are the cutest things in the whole world
- I agree with abortion
- I was raised strict Catholic but I'm now spiritual, I believe in Karma and do onto others as u would want done to u
- Even as a young girl I never fantasized about my wedding, I always said I wanted to get married in Vegas by Elvis(very fitting to my personality if you know me)
- I grew up in a small town outside Pittsburgh. My childhood was like leave it to Beaver. Sidewalks, pine trees and a stay at home mom
- I have an older brother and I'm also an aunt.
- Everyone in my families first name starts with a "J"
- My favorite color is red.
- I pee in the shower
- I'm only attracted to white boys if they are fully tattooed
- I don't do drugs
- Before my hair was blonde I had never ever colored it in my life
- I have 8 tattoos
- I have a Biology Degree
- My favorite city to visit is Miami
- I have an unhealthy obsession with Wiz Khalifa and Anthony Keidis
- I hate the taste of Vodka, my favorite drink is Crown Royal and Ginger- Ale or Patron sprite and grenadine
- Im not a private person
These are my confessions. Love me or hate me I'm Dunnie
Monday, January 10, 2011
Forgetting Aldus
Ok ok, so some of y'all know me and some of u don't, but if u do know me you know I party like I have daddy issues and I'm not shy about exposing my sex life, so let me share with you one of my steamiest most forbidden sexual encounters.
We will call him Aldus
I met Aldus at Teddy's a lounge inside the Roosevelt hotel. This was right before his movie came out that made him a star. I had no idea he was a famous actor until my friend Aren, who had seen a private screening of the movie pulled me aside and said "HOW do you know him?" I replied that I didn't and he said "well keep talking to him." Now I'm usually not attracted to white men but white boys with English accents in leather pants with longish crazy hair make me weak in the knees. He invited me with him and his "mates" after the club to go back to his house in the hills to "party". Due to the fact I am drug free it sounded very unappealing, watching 4 English men snort coke and try and get me naked. So I passed on going with them and took his number instead.
Much to my surprise Aldus called me the next morning, I was busy and didn't get around to calling back and I receive 3 texts and a voicemail before I got around to calling. I should have known this guy was a freak from him stalking my phone but he was so cute and interesting I had to see what he was about.
I agreed to meet him two days later at the Chateau on a Sunday night. The Chateau is a posh hotel on the Sunset Strip and is pretty hard to get into, he had reserved a table in the garden, which is in my opinion one of the most beautiful and elite places you can go in LA. We sat and drank white wine and dined on oysters and scallions. He seemed to be normal and was very funny and smart, he talked about how much he loved his "mum" and how he had just finished a book about his life and his addictions our conversation went on for hours as did the bottles of wine. Being tipsy and giddy and actually liking this guy I agreed to go back with him to his house he had recently purchased in the hills, he seemed very excited about showing it off, I made it very clear that I was only coming for a bit to look at the house and to check out his vintage Beatles collection.
We arrived at his house just behind the Chateau, it was absolutely BEAUTIFUL! The view was amazing the furnishings were big thick wood vintage pieces, he had a full zebra rug on the floor and the walls were adorned with vintage rock art work, he did however have a stripper pole in the middle of the living room and some expensive looking sex toys laying around, I didn't think much of this because he had just become famous and probably threw some wild Hollywood after parties. Then he popped open a bottle of champagne and poured 2 glasses, already tipsy I took the drink and we picked up our conversation right where we had left off. He kept complimenting my louboutins and how sexy he thought they were which for some reason made me feel weird. I started to fidget with my phone and I think he could tell I was getting nervous, so he got up and put my favorite Beatles song " Blackbird" from the White Album on the record player and did a kiddish curtsied and put his hand out for me to take it for a slow dance. I got up and we "waltzed" around the living room laughing and giggling and acting like little kids then we started kissing, Aldus is a very manly man, even though you wouldn't be able to tell by how tight his pants are and was a bit aggressive, which I like, by this time I was totally into it, I gave up and it was about to go down.
This is when it got weird, he ripped off his shirt like he was the incredible hulk, his buttons flew everywhere, he then went full sprint to the stripper pole and did a full spin around it while shimmying off his tight leather pants, once in his little briefs he did a Tom Cruise Risky Business slide across the floor and threw me over his shoulder and proceeds to run up the spiral staircase while making Tarzan noises.
Once in his room he turned on a jungle themed music soundtrack or something fucking weird pulled off my dress and insisted I keep my heels on.
The sex was MIND BLOWING! goodness gracious, He kept calling me " Lord Jenna" and telling me my uh hmm was so beautiful. It was loud and ratchet, exciting and passionate
This went on for hours, I even think at one point he swung from the chandeler that hung over his bed, we fell asleep around day break. When I woke up he was gone, but there was a note taped to my back, yes my back that said " I had to be on set, I didn't want to wake you have some tea with my mum and meet me at my trailer mid afternoon". I got up but on my dress from the night before tried to tame my weave that was now half pulled out and snuck by his elderly mother whom was having tea in the kitchen before she could turn around and see the mess I was.
I met him that afternoon for lunch and at his trailer, then again that night for dinner and another sleepover and this routine went on for about 6weeks our chemistry and our attraction to each other was like 2 magnets but then I started to realize that this dude was actually addicted to sex it was all we did we hardly talked or laughed anymore the dinners and movie dates got farther and further in between we weren't sweet and loving, I didn't get morning notes anymore and it almost was a chore, it stopped getting exciting.
He had asked me to come to London with him because he had to do a radio show and some appearances and would be there for 2months, at 1st I was excited but then I got to thinking about it and realized this relationship was based on nothing but sex there was no substance no love, we obviously cared for one another and I considered him one of my best friends but I decided not to go, after he left he told me he was so addicted to having sex that he would be sleeping with other people while he was there due to the fact I had refused to go. I told him I was ok with it but in the time we spent apart we grew apart and he ended up staying for 6months. We he returned to the states I went to NYC to visit him and it just wasn't the same, we decided to part ways and be friends which didn't work out because he recently got married.
At the end of the day I walked away from that relationship with a full heart, a smile on my face, a crazy story, a great friend, good times and great memories everything a relationship is supposed to be if only he wasn't so damn horny maybe I would have been his bride in India ;)
We will call him Aldus
I met Aldus at Teddy's a lounge inside the Roosevelt hotel. This was right before his movie came out that made him a star. I had no idea he was a famous actor until my friend Aren, who had seen a private screening of the movie pulled me aside and said "HOW do you know him?" I replied that I didn't and he said "well keep talking to him." Now I'm usually not attracted to white men but white boys with English accents in leather pants with longish crazy hair make me weak in the knees. He invited me with him and his "mates" after the club to go back to his house in the hills to "party". Due to the fact I am drug free it sounded very unappealing, watching 4 English men snort coke and try and get me naked. So I passed on going with them and took his number instead.
Much to my surprise Aldus called me the next morning, I was busy and didn't get around to calling back and I receive 3 texts and a voicemail before I got around to calling. I should have known this guy was a freak from him stalking my phone but he was so cute and interesting I had to see what he was about.
I agreed to meet him two days later at the Chateau on a Sunday night. The Chateau is a posh hotel on the Sunset Strip and is pretty hard to get into, he had reserved a table in the garden, which is in my opinion one of the most beautiful and elite places you can go in LA. We sat and drank white wine and dined on oysters and scallions. He seemed to be normal and was very funny and smart, he talked about how much he loved his "mum" and how he had just finished a book about his life and his addictions our conversation went on for hours as did the bottles of wine. Being tipsy and giddy and actually liking this guy I agreed to go back with him to his house he had recently purchased in the hills, he seemed very excited about showing it off, I made it very clear that I was only coming for a bit to look at the house and to check out his vintage Beatles collection.
We arrived at his house just behind the Chateau, it was absolutely BEAUTIFUL! The view was amazing the furnishings were big thick wood vintage pieces, he had a full zebra rug on the floor and the walls were adorned with vintage rock art work, he did however have a stripper pole in the middle of the living room and some expensive looking sex toys laying around, I didn't think much of this because he had just become famous and probably threw some wild Hollywood after parties. Then he popped open a bottle of champagne and poured 2 glasses, already tipsy I took the drink and we picked up our conversation right where we had left off. He kept complimenting my louboutins and how sexy he thought they were which for some reason made me feel weird. I started to fidget with my phone and I think he could tell I was getting nervous, so he got up and put my favorite Beatles song " Blackbird" from the White Album on the record player and did a kiddish curtsied and put his hand out for me to take it for a slow dance. I got up and we "waltzed" around the living room laughing and giggling and acting like little kids then we started kissing, Aldus is a very manly man, even though you wouldn't be able to tell by how tight his pants are and was a bit aggressive, which I like, by this time I was totally into it, I gave up and it was about to go down.
This is when it got weird, he ripped off his shirt like he was the incredible hulk, his buttons flew everywhere, he then went full sprint to the stripper pole and did a full spin around it while shimmying off his tight leather pants, once in his little briefs he did a Tom Cruise Risky Business slide across the floor and threw me over his shoulder and proceeds to run up the spiral staircase while making Tarzan noises.
Once in his room he turned on a jungle themed music soundtrack or something fucking weird pulled off my dress and insisted I keep my heels on.
The sex was MIND BLOWING! goodness gracious, He kept calling me " Lord Jenna" and telling me my uh hmm was so beautiful. It was loud and ratchet, exciting and passionate
This went on for hours, I even think at one point he swung from the chandeler that hung over his bed, we fell asleep around day break. When I woke up he was gone, but there was a note taped to my back, yes my back that said " I had to be on set, I didn't want to wake you have some tea with my mum and meet me at my trailer mid afternoon". I got up but on my dress from the night before tried to tame my weave that was now half pulled out and snuck by his elderly mother whom was having tea in the kitchen before she could turn around and see the mess I was.
I met him that afternoon for lunch and at his trailer, then again that night for dinner and another sleepover and this routine went on for about 6weeks our chemistry and our attraction to each other was like 2 magnets but then I started to realize that this dude was actually addicted to sex it was all we did we hardly talked or laughed anymore the dinners and movie dates got farther and further in between we weren't sweet and loving, I didn't get morning notes anymore and it almost was a chore, it stopped getting exciting.
He had asked me to come to London with him because he had to do a radio show and some appearances and would be there for 2months, at 1st I was excited but then I got to thinking about it and realized this relationship was based on nothing but sex there was no substance no love, we obviously cared for one another and I considered him one of my best friends but I decided not to go, after he left he told me he was so addicted to having sex that he would be sleeping with other people while he was there due to the fact I had refused to go. I told him I was ok with it but in the time we spent apart we grew apart and he ended up staying for 6months. We he returned to the states I went to NYC to visit him and it just wasn't the same, we decided to part ways and be friends which didn't work out because he recently got married.
At the end of the day I walked away from that relationship with a full heart, a smile on my face, a crazy story, a great friend, good times and great memories everything a relationship is supposed to be if only he wasn't so damn horny maybe I would have been his bride in India ;)
Wednesday, December 29, 2010
Round and Round
So there's this guy I've been on and off with for the last 4yrs. I met him at a club on valentines day, and let me tell u it felt like love at first sight. He introduced himself and we exchanged numbers. Within the next few days we had exchanged a few texts and made plans for him to come over with a few of his friends to hang out. I don't know how many of u have felt like this but there are certain people whom just grasp your heart and your emotions and u have no idea why, well he was one of them. I couldn't put my finger on it but I always tell him " I'm addicted to your light" I wasn't completely sure where it came from nor why I felt so drawn to him but I guess these are one of the few things that u will never be able to explain. In the months and years to come we remained close, but the thing about him was he was terrible at keeping promises, he would promise to call, to text or to meet somewhere and just wouldn't, this chase drove me insane, much like the guy in my post "lying cheating son of a gun" I'm obsessed with control and when I don't have it I tend to go a little nutty. Every time I would go out and run into him my heart would drop I truly believe at one point I was in love with him, he was and is the type of guy that makes me 2nd think my actions and want to be a better woman, not just for him but for myself. As the weeks days months and years go on our relationship stays the same, never progressing. I would see him once a month, once every 2weeks and sometimes not even we could go for weeks or months without speaking but every time I spent time with him all the feelings would rush back. Now the problem with us was in the in betweens I was obviously out and on the scene I still dated guys and had random hook ups which a few happened to be his acquaintances. He's a very protective and private person, whom Is extremely religious and I forgot to mention we'd never slept together, even to this day. Me being with people he knew and was around him didn't sit well and inevitably made him not want to be in a committed relationship with me.
-Ok, now I see his point, but he had a chance MANY chances to have me before I met his friends and if he would have spoke up about the fact that he disliked me being out often, I could have and would have calmed my ways for him, no one is a mind reader and him not taking initioative made me think he didn't want to be with me so I'm going to continue to be whom I chose and make my own decisions as a grown indepentant woman.
He's a well known actor and when he went over seas to film a movie we talked everyday he was away, sent picture, emails and chatted on bbm, I even went to visit him while he was on set and let me again state WE NEVER had sex, our relationship was purley emotional which is even more intense. When he came back we had made promises to see eachother the night he arrived back into LA and made plans to finally do the deed. He didn't show until 3days after he had arrived back in the states. I made everything perfect, an itunes playlist, candels, dinner and exspensive lingire. He came over we ate, drank and talked then we finally moved things into my room just when things started getting hot and heavy he jumped up and said he needed to run to the car to get a condom. He never came back, never picked up my calls and disappeared for a month.
When he finally got in touch with me through email he told me his car had gotten broken into, blah blah blah bullshit bullshit bullshit. I didn't speak to him for about 2months after that and got into a relationship with someone else. Throughout my relationship with the other person we still spoke, I know, bad bad bad dunnie but even though I was with someone else, he still had my heart.
The person I was dating was an aquatance of his, whom I had met one night when I had gone to meet him at a resteraunt (bad idea like I said before DONT DATE within the circle) I had told my current boyfriend about my relationship with him and the heartbreak and love I "had had for him" even though it was still there. Once my boyfriend and I broke up, a bitter breakup may I add, they ran into eachother. They both exchanges stories about me and my ex went on and on about how I still spoke to him during our relationship and how bad that had hurt him. Being a man and not wanting to feel as though he had taken another mans women he said some pretty awful things about me, that I was a "jump off" and he "had no respect for me" blah blah blah but the thing was we were hardly physical which is what hurt the most. It was about 6months this time before I spoke to him again.
As the years have gone on and I have grown as a person I realized I was stuck in a situation with no progression, I was giving a lot of myself emotionally with someone who had no intent to ever be with me and my heart slowly began to change, I stopped picking up calls, running when he would invite me over and wouldn't return texts. He started to realize and then the tables turned, but it was too late, my heart had changed. I still to this day love him, but its not the same kind of butterfly excited love, its a caring kind of love, like I care for him as a person and his well being. I recently asked him " why I was never his girlfriend" and he answered me with
" You're a littl bit to in the scene for me. Seen with. Been with. Hooked up. Made out with...etc. I'm very protective. And private....to walk through a club, or a pop spot and have dudes look and be able to identify in some sort of way with my girl is a No No for me."
I respected that it was an honest answer and it makes complete sense but why did u waste 4yrs of my time to enevitibly end up on the conclusion you could of had in the beginning.
So ladies here is my advice to you, if a man wants to be with u he will, he will tell you he will open up about the things he loves about you and the things he doesn't, don't waste your time in a relationship that is strictly on him, on his terms and something that has no progression, if you've been seeing someone whom you seem to have a connection with and who seems to like you and its been 3-4months and he hasn't made it official or you haven't progressed turn it into a friendship because its not going to go anywhere. If he's into you he's going to want to lock you down as his girl before someone else does don't wait around til he's ready letting him watch you "do things he doesn't like" and then usuing them against you when u ask about becoming a couple, hey if he would have committed then u probably wouldn't live your life like you were single and if he's not claiming you then why the hell would you live your life like he was your man, trust me if you do that he's getting the milk without buying the cow. He has his cake and can eat it too, a girl who acts as his girlfriend but he is free from all the consiquenses and obligations that come with being in a relationship. No matter how much he says he doesn't want to be in a relationship or he "doesn't do relationships" he's saying I don't want one with you cause I promise once he finds a girl he likes he'll be in a relationship and you'll be heartbroken. Don't allow that, trust me I've been through it and I did see him have a girlfriend at one point. If he doesn't make you his girl then you're wasting your time. Move on to someone who loves u for you regardless of your flaws or actions, trust me, he's out there.
Happy hunting.
-Ok, now I see his point, but he had a chance MANY chances to have me before I met his friends and if he would have spoke up about the fact that he disliked me being out often, I could have and would have calmed my ways for him, no one is a mind reader and him not taking initioative made me think he didn't want to be with me so I'm going to continue to be whom I chose and make my own decisions as a grown indepentant woman.
He's a well known actor and when he went over seas to film a movie we talked everyday he was away, sent picture, emails and chatted on bbm, I even went to visit him while he was on set and let me again state WE NEVER had sex, our relationship was purley emotional which is even more intense. When he came back we had made promises to see eachother the night he arrived back into LA and made plans to finally do the deed. He didn't show until 3days after he had arrived back in the states. I made everything perfect, an itunes playlist, candels, dinner and exspensive lingire. He came over we ate, drank and talked then we finally moved things into my room just when things started getting hot and heavy he jumped up and said he needed to run to the car to get a condom. He never came back, never picked up my calls and disappeared for a month.
When he finally got in touch with me through email he told me his car had gotten broken into, blah blah blah bullshit bullshit bullshit. I didn't speak to him for about 2months after that and got into a relationship with someone else. Throughout my relationship with the other person we still spoke, I know, bad bad bad dunnie but even though I was with someone else, he still had my heart.
The person I was dating was an aquatance of his, whom I had met one night when I had gone to meet him at a resteraunt (bad idea like I said before DONT DATE within the circle) I had told my current boyfriend about my relationship with him and the heartbreak and love I "had had for him" even though it was still there. Once my boyfriend and I broke up, a bitter breakup may I add, they ran into eachother. They both exchanges stories about me and my ex went on and on about how I still spoke to him during our relationship and how bad that had hurt him. Being a man and not wanting to feel as though he had taken another mans women he said some pretty awful things about me, that I was a "jump off" and he "had no respect for me" blah blah blah but the thing was we were hardly physical which is what hurt the most. It was about 6months this time before I spoke to him again.
As the years have gone on and I have grown as a person I realized I was stuck in a situation with no progression, I was giving a lot of myself emotionally with someone who had no intent to ever be with me and my heart slowly began to change, I stopped picking up calls, running when he would invite me over and wouldn't return texts. He started to realize and then the tables turned, but it was too late, my heart had changed. I still to this day love him, but its not the same kind of butterfly excited love, its a caring kind of love, like I care for him as a person and his well being. I recently asked him " why I was never his girlfriend" and he answered me with
" You're a littl bit to in the scene for me. Seen with. Been with. Hooked up. Made out with...etc. I'm very protective. And private....to walk through a club, or a pop spot and have dudes look and be able to identify in some sort of way with my girl is a No No for me."
I respected that it was an honest answer and it makes complete sense but why did u waste 4yrs of my time to enevitibly end up on the conclusion you could of had in the beginning.
So ladies here is my advice to you, if a man wants to be with u he will, he will tell you he will open up about the things he loves about you and the things he doesn't, don't waste your time in a relationship that is strictly on him, on his terms and something that has no progression, if you've been seeing someone whom you seem to have a connection with and who seems to like you and its been 3-4months and he hasn't made it official or you haven't progressed turn it into a friendship because its not going to go anywhere. If he's into you he's going to want to lock you down as his girl before someone else does don't wait around til he's ready letting him watch you "do things he doesn't like" and then usuing them against you when u ask about becoming a couple, hey if he would have committed then u probably wouldn't live your life like you were single and if he's not claiming you then why the hell would you live your life like he was your man, trust me if you do that he's getting the milk without buying the cow. He has his cake and can eat it too, a girl who acts as his girlfriend but he is free from all the consiquenses and obligations that come with being in a relationship. No matter how much he says he doesn't want to be in a relationship or he "doesn't do relationships" he's saying I don't want one with you cause I promise once he finds a girl he likes he'll be in a relationship and you'll be heartbroken. Don't allow that, trust me I've been through it and I did see him have a girlfriend at one point. If he doesn't make you his girl then you're wasting your time. Move on to someone who loves u for you regardless of your flaws or actions, trust me, he's out there.
Happy hunting.
1st date blues
We all either LOVE or HATE 1st dates, personally I love them, maybe its because I'm full of myself and have a lot to say and I love sharing myself to others and making new friends or maybe its because I like to get dressed to go to places besides the club.
When I head out on a 1st date I always throw together an outfit that shows my personal style and flair, don't dress how you think he wants you to or what u think he'd like, be you from the 1st moment the 1st date, of course you want to impress him so you may spend a little more time on your hair or makeup that's understandable but
"don't be a wolf in sheep clothing"
Make sure you do however dress appropriately for the restaurant, I wouldn't want you showing up in flats and a hat to Mr. Chow, not that you couldn't but take the opportunity to go to a lovely fancy restaurant and wear your fabulous dress u wouldn't necessarily wear to the club.
As you prepare for your date, and once you've decided on a time and a place jump online and look over the menu before you head out. This little trick helps A LOT! Not only can you make sure you're pronouncing your order correctly but it cuts down on the awkward silence while you're both trying to look at the menu, also if the date is going well from the beginning neither of u want to spend 25mins of not really looking at the menu because you both are still in conversation and neither of u can focus on the dishes, you know how that is, the waitress will come by 3 or 4times to ask if you're ready and you'll both say "oh geeze I wasn't even looking" this trick has helped me the most at sushi restaurants, coming from Pittsburgh we don't have many, I don't think we really have any to be honest so I would always get awkward not knowing what I was ordering, this will also get u familiar with the different dishes bc if u plan on staying/living or visiting LA for any length of time you'll want to be on point when it comes to your sushi game.
Now, if he asks you to pick the restaurant or if he asks u for a suggestion here are some awesome places, I've based them on where you may have met him and grouped accordingly, I also added in addresses, attire suggestions and my favorite dishes at each place!
Enjoy!!
So you're going on a date with a total hipster u met at a dark dive bar downtown, or at a Hollywood bar on Cahuenga Blvd he asks you to dinner and knowing he likes it low key, judging on where you met him you can suggest these places.
Here are some amazing 1st date places for dinner with your hipster in Hollywood.
Birds
5925 Franklin Avenue
Los Angeles, CA 90068
(323) 465-0175
Vibe: laid back bar/restaurant a place u can order a beer but still feel like a lady.
Attire: this is when u throw on those tight Frankie B skinny legs or thick black leggings, a pair of ankle boots a beanie or something cute in your hair and some funky layered jewelry
Check out http://www.shopmisskara.com/ for some awesome layering pieces.
If its warm out throw on a skirt or a cute pair of high waisted jean shorts with an open toe wedge and a plain tank along with some jewelry
My fav dish: 1/2 chicken marinated rotisserie chicken with 2 sides and choice or dipping sauce, it also come with pita bread and I always order a beer with it.
Toi Thai
505 1/2 W Sunset Blvd
Los Angeles, CA 90046-3407
(323) 874-8062
One of my ALL time favorite places I LA
Attire- total rocker, this is when u break out the vintage tee the jean shorts, ripped jeans the ripped tights or knee highs I showed u how to wear in my post "Knee hi's" you can definitely wear those flat rocker boots you're afraid to wear to the club. Step out in a funky hair style and a dark lipstick, just ROCK out!
Vibe:The food is just as good as the vibe, they play amazing classic rock music just a touch too loud and u usually don't have to wait, if there is a little wait you can walk next door to the a joining art gallery that's filled with really cool paintings of your favorite rock stars to spark a convo and feel out what kind of music he's into and what kind of person he is by which paintings he's drawn to. Music is the best way to break the ice this restaurant is low key with dime lights and paintings and posters all over the walls, I LOVE LOVE LOVE
Side note: Although it looks like a good idea when u come in and see the table were u can sit on the floor and eat, I don't suggest picking this because your feet will fall asleep from sitting on them and it could be awkward positioning depending on that you're wearing, def not good seating if you're in a dress or skirt
My fav dish: the lemon chicken dish with a side of fried rice, the curry is to die for as well. Order some sake and a Sapporo and take some sake bombs, this is the perfect place to laugh, have fun and sing along to the background music.
Bossa Nova
7181 Sunset Blvd
Los Angeles, CA 90046
(323) 436-7999
Vibe: super super casual, a brazilian resteraunt that has EVERYTHING from pizza to sandwhiches to pastas, indoor and outdoor seating.
Attire: Definitly a jeans and sweater or shorts and tshirt kind of place. Don't get too dolled up dress as if you were going to the movies or the mall but add an extra flair due to the fact it is a dinner.
My fav dish: the bread they give u is sooo yummy and the chucho chicken club sandwich or the chuchos salad are both great, the chicken alfredo pasta is delish and order a glass of white wine, I like the St. Michelle.
Barney's Beanery
8447 Santa Monica Boulevard,
West Hollywood
(323) 654-2287
This place is cool because it has some history as well, it was the final destination for westbound travelers on route 66.
Vibe: This is a total bar vibe, pool tables and beer with bar food
Attire: You can wear pretty much anything I had mentioned in the previous places, I would suggest wearing flats though because it is more of a bar environment than a restaurant.
Fav dish: I'm totally obsessed with french fries and they have THE best here so I order any sort of sandwich with fries as my side and a Jack Daniels and coke.
Ok so you meet a guy at a posh club, he is dressed well, pretty stylish but not a hipster, he wants to grab sushi somewhere nice in Hollywood I suggest these place and I also suggest making a reservation.
Katsuya
6300 Hollywood Boulevard
Los Angeles
(323) 871-8777
Koi
730 N La Cienega Blvd
Los Angeles, CA 90069
(310) 659-9449
Katana
8439 West Sunset Boulevard
West Hollywood, CA 90069
(323) 650-8585
Nobu
903 North La Cienega Boulevard
West Hollywood, CA 90069-4709
(310) 657-5711
Now these are the places you break out the nice dresses and your expensive shoes, they are all the empitimy of "Hollywood" I promise on any given evening you will run into someone famous, going to these restaurants is your time to show off and shine. I suggest a classy little black dress with your added flair of style, a simple hair do and minimal make-up, carry a small clutch bag and bring out your best shoe.
Look over the menu before hand, make sure you know what each dish is, the good thing is if this guy is taking you to one of these places he usually does the ordering and you'll share. If not lucky for you, youll be prepared.
If hes looking for a nice steak house, here are my suggetions, same attire applies:
Stk
Boa
Cut
Mastros
Madeao
Fancy asian spots
Mr chow
Benihana
Gyro kaku
My personal favorite place to eat in all of LA is... drum roll please...
Dantana's!
9071 Santa Monica Boulevard
West Hollywood, CA 90069
(310) 275-9444
its the cutest homiest little gem in my opinion in Los Angeles I absolutly adore this spot and the staff. You almost get the feeling you having dinner at your cool Italian grandparents house and the food is to DIE for I cant even pick one thing on the menu because its all amazing, but theyre known for thier chicken parm. I give this place 5stars!
and finally a few of my favorite spots for lunch!
Primo
Ill tramazino
La scala
The farm
Fred siegal cafe
Tomato pie
Lalas
Sorry I got a little lazy at the end here and didnt add in addys and phone numbers but just throw them in your google search and you'll be able to find them. Happy dating and happy eating :)
When I head out on a 1st date I always throw together an outfit that shows my personal style and flair, don't dress how you think he wants you to or what u think he'd like, be you from the 1st moment the 1st date, of course you want to impress him so you may spend a little more time on your hair or makeup that's understandable but
"don't be a wolf in sheep clothing"
Make sure you do however dress appropriately for the restaurant, I wouldn't want you showing up in flats and a hat to Mr. Chow, not that you couldn't but take the opportunity to go to a lovely fancy restaurant and wear your fabulous dress u wouldn't necessarily wear to the club.
As you prepare for your date, and once you've decided on a time and a place jump online and look over the menu before you head out. This little trick helps A LOT! Not only can you make sure you're pronouncing your order correctly but it cuts down on the awkward silence while you're both trying to look at the menu, also if the date is going well from the beginning neither of u want to spend 25mins of not really looking at the menu because you both are still in conversation and neither of u can focus on the dishes, you know how that is, the waitress will come by 3 or 4times to ask if you're ready and you'll both say "oh geeze I wasn't even looking" this trick has helped me the most at sushi restaurants, coming from Pittsburgh we don't have many, I don't think we really have any to be honest so I would always get awkward not knowing what I was ordering, this will also get u familiar with the different dishes bc if u plan on staying/living or visiting LA for any length of time you'll want to be on point when it comes to your sushi game.
Now, if he asks you to pick the restaurant or if he asks u for a suggestion here are some awesome places, I've based them on where you may have met him and grouped accordingly, I also added in addresses, attire suggestions and my favorite dishes at each place!
Enjoy!!
So you're going on a date with a total hipster u met at a dark dive bar downtown, or at a Hollywood bar on Cahuenga Blvd he asks you to dinner and knowing he likes it low key, judging on where you met him you can suggest these places.
Here are some amazing 1st date places for dinner with your hipster in Hollywood.
Birds
5925 Franklin Avenue
Los Angeles, CA 90068
(323) 465-0175
Vibe: laid back bar/restaurant a place u can order a beer but still feel like a lady.
Attire: this is when u throw on those tight Frankie B skinny legs or thick black leggings, a pair of ankle boots a beanie or something cute in your hair and some funky layered jewelry
Check out http://www.shopmisskara.com/ for some awesome layering pieces.
If its warm out throw on a skirt or a cute pair of high waisted jean shorts with an open toe wedge and a plain tank along with some jewelry
My fav dish: 1/2 chicken marinated rotisserie chicken with 2 sides and choice or dipping sauce, it also come with pita bread and I always order a beer with it.
Toi Thai
505 1/2 W Sunset Blvd
Los Angeles, CA 90046-3407
(323) 874-8062
One of my ALL time favorite places I LA
Attire- total rocker, this is when u break out the vintage tee the jean shorts, ripped jeans the ripped tights or knee highs I showed u how to wear in my post "Knee hi's" you can definitely wear those flat rocker boots you're afraid to wear to the club. Step out in a funky hair style and a dark lipstick, just ROCK out!
Vibe:The food is just as good as the vibe, they play amazing classic rock music just a touch too loud and u usually don't have to wait, if there is a little wait you can walk next door to the a joining art gallery that's filled with really cool paintings of your favorite rock stars to spark a convo and feel out what kind of music he's into and what kind of person he is by which paintings he's drawn to. Music is the best way to break the ice this restaurant is low key with dime lights and paintings and posters all over the walls, I LOVE LOVE LOVE
Side note: Although it looks like a good idea when u come in and see the table were u can sit on the floor and eat, I don't suggest picking this because your feet will fall asleep from sitting on them and it could be awkward positioning depending on that you're wearing, def not good seating if you're in a dress or skirt
My fav dish: the lemon chicken dish with a side of fried rice, the curry is to die for as well. Order some sake and a Sapporo and take some sake bombs, this is the perfect place to laugh, have fun and sing along to the background music.
Bossa Nova
7181 Sunset Blvd
Los Angeles, CA 90046
(323) 436-7999
Vibe: super super casual, a brazilian resteraunt that has EVERYTHING from pizza to sandwhiches to pastas, indoor and outdoor seating.
Attire: Definitly a jeans and sweater or shorts and tshirt kind of place. Don't get too dolled up dress as if you were going to the movies or the mall but add an extra flair due to the fact it is a dinner.
My fav dish: the bread they give u is sooo yummy and the chucho chicken club sandwich or the chuchos salad are both great, the chicken alfredo pasta is delish and order a glass of white wine, I like the St. Michelle.
Barney's Beanery
8447 Santa Monica Boulevard,
West Hollywood
This place is cool because it has some history as well, it was the final destination for westbound travelers on route 66.
Vibe: This is a total bar vibe, pool tables and beer with bar food
Attire: You can wear pretty much anything I had mentioned in the previous places, I would suggest wearing flats though because it is more of a bar environment than a restaurant.
Fav dish: I'm totally obsessed with french fries and they have THE best here so I order any sort of sandwich with fries as my side and a Jack Daniels and coke.
Ok so you meet a guy at a posh club, he is dressed well, pretty stylish but not a hipster, he wants to grab sushi somewhere nice in Hollywood I suggest these place and I also suggest making a reservation.
Katsuya
6300 Hollywood Boulevard
Los Angeles
Koi
730 N La Cienega Blvd
Los Angeles, CA 90069
(310) 659-9449
Katana
8439 West Sunset Boulevard
West Hollywood, CA 90069
(323) 650-8585
Nobu
903 North La Cienega Boulevard
West Hollywood, CA 90069-4709
(310) 657-5711
Now these are the places you break out the nice dresses and your expensive shoes, they are all the empitimy of "Hollywood" I promise on any given evening you will run into someone famous, going to these restaurants is your time to show off and shine. I suggest a classy little black dress with your added flair of style, a simple hair do and minimal make-up, carry a small clutch bag and bring out your best shoe.
Look over the menu before hand, make sure you know what each dish is, the good thing is if this guy is taking you to one of these places he usually does the ordering and you'll share. If not lucky for you, youll be prepared.
If hes looking for a nice steak house, here are my suggetions, same attire applies:
Stk
Boa
Cut
Mastros
Madeao
Fancy asian spots
Mr chow
Benihana
Gyro kaku
My personal favorite place to eat in all of LA is... drum roll please...
Dantana's!
9071 Santa Monica Boulevard
West Hollywood, CA 90069
(310) 275-9444
its the cutest homiest little gem in my opinion in Los Angeles I absolutly adore this spot and the staff. You almost get the feeling you having dinner at your cool Italian grandparents house and the food is to DIE for I cant even pick one thing on the menu because its all amazing, but theyre known for thier chicken parm. I give this place 5stars!
and finally a few of my favorite spots for lunch!
Primo
Ill tramazino
La scala
The farm
Fred siegal cafe
Tomato pie
Lalas
Sorry I got a little lazy at the end here and didnt add in addys and phone numbers but just throw them in your google search and you'll be able to find them. Happy dating and happy eating :)
Friday, December 17, 2010
**CAUTION** Male Groupie
So I got this email today to WARN us all about the many creeps lurking LA and praying on the "newbies" beware, male groupies are worse than female groupies. The funny thing is I know this person pretty well and I like him a lot but when you said about the "cold as Christmas" in his house it rang a bell. I don't know much about this guys personal life but I do know he's out ALL the time and no one has every really figured out what he does. Its like a myth, I've heard plenty of stories but no one knows who the REAL JAY is.
*DEAR DUNNIE*
Ok, so this is a guy everyone knows or has heard of in the party scene. Yet no one knows what the hell he does. I've heard several different rumors regarding his occupation, but based on what I know and seen this nigga is not doing SHIT! I been dealing with this guy since I was 19 years old and still to this day dont get his hype. So maybe I am the foolish one. Foolish but not stupid. I am a smart female when it comes to dudes, I know how to play my role and to keep my heart's best interests. From day one I knew this dude was a joke. But I figured hey why not! He had all the connects to the clubs, was always VIP and always took care of me. But he swears he was gaming me to this day. I should've ran ran ran when I went to his house for the 1st time for our lil "rendezvous." This nigga lived in a lil bitty shack/back house! It was cold as Christmas, he was sleeping in a BUNK BED!!! We did our do and to my surprise, it was NOT ALL THAT! TRUST! LMAO. The sad thing is let me tell you dude has chicks! And bad chicks at that, from video hoes to popular actresses/r&b singers. I don't know how he does it!
It took a minute for me to figure it out but I think I finally got his appeal but I finally got it he is a bitches step stool to the dudes with the "real money." I like to call him a male groupie or the hype man. He's always at different athletes, actors, entertainers tables, he holds their bottles and flosses their chains, cars, and everything else as if it's his when it's not. I dont know much about him now but throughout the 4 years I was fooling around with him he never had a car! I rather enjoyed playing with this dude. He constantly hit me up: bbm/txt/email/phone calls. I would only have sex with him when I wanted to. And that was always last resort penis.....he never lasted more than 5 mins not even with oral sex smh.
Basically in a nutshell: he loves what you call "newbies" he loves young girls he has to be damn near over 30 now. He swears he wants to commit but if he was he would keep his ass out the club. He talks to hella girls all in which hang out with eachother and thinks he slick about it and he really isnt. he's just a bum ass hollyHOOD dude. anytime we did anything it was because i was taking a "L" for my girls LOL..
Niggas have EGOS and they hate to have them bruised! So if your the 1st one to act like you dont give a fuck then they will be shocked! Men are such simple creatures, and we as women are def the complicated ones and us over thinking ish is what makes us THINK men are these big ASS HOLES we made them out to be. But really it's easy play the role....dont give a fuck about a dude til he shows (not says) how he feels. I think thats why i really like your blog. I learned my lesson long ago, men are dogs! Until i see how a dude interacts with his mama and family all that other shit's for the birds
Dont get me wrong i like Jay as a person i really do he's coo as fuck but i see right through him, he's predictable, insecure, and still trying to find himself.
I have so much to say about situations regarding men and dumb ass females that have made women have to act a certain way to keep a man because for every f'd up men out there it was a woman that made him that way, whether it was an ex, mama, grandma, or female in their life, thats just my opinion. =)
EXAMPLE: Single mother raising a young boy, brings men over that shes dating, always someone new, that little boy grows up thinking thats how women should be treated, inevitably he will treat other women in his life the same way. Thats his mom's fault! LOL let me stop!
Thanks for listening
-S
I love this, and I love that you played him while he thought he was playing you. I think you are TOTALLY right when you speak about how men act how the women in their life treated them, thats a great piece of advice.
Girls, just be careful out there if you feel in your gut somethings not right I can promise you there is something thats not right. Go with your gut instinct and if you're spending a lot of your time with this guy do whatever investigations you see fit. I've learned that its hard to take a guy seriously thats out every night in the club standing on top of tables when he doesn't even have a car, come on ladies OPEN your eyes and use your head. Take the advice of your friends and use what you see as your guide on how to treat your blooming relationship.
Shame Shame Shame
Good afternoon my wonderful blog readers!! I just want to thank you all for the e-mails and the wonderful feedback! Keep it coming I love hearing what you all have to say!
On this particular gloomy LA Friday I'd like to share with you something we ALL have experienced but rarley want to talk about.
Last night I had an AMAZING evening with my friends, we all stepped out and went to the Diddy listening party for his " Last train to Paris" album, which I love and you all should download on itunes, and then hit the club for some drinks and dancing.
So here's a little back story of what I'm about to tell you
A friend of mine had recently set me up through "bbm love connections" with a cute young rapper from London, "Chuck". Now Chuck and I had never met in person but had a fake love affair from across the ocean and through our blackberry's. Chuck finally made his way to LA and was at the same place I attended last evening. Lucky for me the mutual friend whom set us up was there as well because I only knew what he looked like from the blurry pictures he sent me through his bbm.
I think we both had one too many glasses of champagne but we were both feeling each other he was cute, sweet well dressed and seemed to be having a great time, which is super attractive when someone is genuinely enjoying themselves.
Long story short he asks me to go with him to grab some food after the club, I agree. I woke up this morning in a hotel bed in my clothes and fake eyelashes from the night before.
Shame shame shame, this is how I looked leaving this morning, hair a mess, eyelashes falling off and heels on, not the best look. So I thought to myself, how can we fix this, cause I know all of you have been through it.
So here are some ideas.
Whats worked for me in the past is carrying a make up wipe in my bag, you can get them at any drug store, the ones that come dry that you have to wet, I like theses ones
Just throw one in a small plastic sandwich bag and put it in your purse or clutch, you can wipe off that ugly mascara that's made its way down your face and the bright red lipstick that had stained your lips.
In your morning after survival pack you should have a
-small brush
-a few bobby pins
-your makeup wipes an
-extra phone battery or charger
-hair ties
Now you can't do much about the outfit unfortunately and even if he does offer you a t-shirt and some shorts, the shoes are always dead give away.
My worst walk of shame ever was leaving the Four Season's hotel the morning after my 22nd birthday in THIS dress after spending an intimate evening with Nickelback front man Chad Kroeger .
Yes that HIDEOUS dress with those ridiculous shoes and that HILARIOUS man. Not my proudest moment.
Cause that's why they call it a "Walk of Shame"
So anyways! Have fun, be safe and always stay beautiful!
On this particular gloomy LA Friday I'd like to share with you something we ALL have experienced but rarley want to talk about.
Last night I had an AMAZING evening with my friends, we all stepped out and went to the Diddy listening party for his " Last train to Paris" album, which I love and you all should download on itunes, and then hit the club for some drinks and dancing.
So here's a little back story of what I'm about to tell you
A friend of mine had recently set me up through "bbm love connections" with a cute young rapper from London, "Chuck". Now Chuck and I had never met in person but had a fake love affair from across the ocean and through our blackberry's. Chuck finally made his way to LA and was at the same place I attended last evening. Lucky for me the mutual friend whom set us up was there as well because I only knew what he looked like from the blurry pictures he sent me through his bbm.
I think we both had one too many glasses of champagne but we were both feeling each other he was cute, sweet well dressed and seemed to be having a great time, which is super attractive when someone is genuinely enjoying themselves.
Long story short he asks me to go with him to grab some food after the club, I agree. I woke up this morning in a hotel bed in my clothes and fake eyelashes from the night before.
Shame shame shame, this is how I looked leaving this morning, hair a mess, eyelashes falling off and heels on, not the best look. So I thought to myself, how can we fix this, cause I know all of you have been through it.
So here are some ideas.
Whats worked for me in the past is carrying a make up wipe in my bag, you can get them at any drug store, the ones that come dry that you have to wet, I like theses ones
In your morning after survival pack you should have a
-small brush
-a few bobby pins
-your makeup wipes an
-extra phone battery or charger
-hair ties
Now you can't do much about the outfit unfortunately and even if he does offer you a t-shirt and some shorts, the shoes are always dead give away.
My worst walk of shame ever was leaving the Four Season's hotel the morning after my 22nd birthday in THIS dress after spending an intimate evening with Nickelback front man Chad Kroeger .
Yes that HIDEOUS dress with those ridiculous shoes and that HILARIOUS man. Not my proudest moment.
Cause that's why they call it a "Walk of Shame"
So anyways! Have fun, be safe and always stay beautiful!
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